Last week got a
couple of messages…
“I hope you are
fine.”
When I asked why….
the reply was….”You did not send your blog. I wait for it every Sunday.”
It has been almost
six years the Trio of MSD have been penning thoughts ranging from travel to
food, from love to tragedy, from sense to non-sense….Today marks the 200th
blog and we take this opportunity to thank all our readers who read and often put
their appreciation on the blog and WhatsApp. It has been a long journey but one
that we have enjoyed. To mark this double century milestone, I share a double
pack written sometime ago by M&D, the duo who, I wish, would write more
often. Thoda lamba hai but ask
Cheteshwar Pujara how long it takes to score a double and you will excuse us the length for the effort that went into it.
THE BONG PALATE
Some of the memories that I have
preserved of my visit to Kashmir with my parents in the late seventies include
the heart stopping beauty of the valley of Pahalgam, the rows and rows of
chinar trees,the shikaras in the Dal Lake, the unforgivable beauty of
the Kashmiri girls, signboards showing ‘Indo-Kashmir’ emporia and not to forget
lots and lots of our Bong kindred from Kolkata. They had travelled miles just
to be in that place about which it has been said “Gar firdaus, ruhe zamin ast,
hamin asto, hamin asto, hamin asto” (If there is ever a heaven on earth, it’s
here, it’s here, it’s here).
You cannot miss them anywhere. I mean
us, the Bongs. They are everywhere, from the hills to the coast, in buses, trains,
boats, shops, hotels and not to miss hordes of them on horseback or even in ‘dolis’
making their way to Kedarnath or Amarnath. As the Goddess Durga arrives on
Earth from Kailash each year with her children in tow, the Bengali family too
embarks on its annual pilgrimage. The only difference being that the Devi
chooses one of these modes of travel – Ashwa(horse), Gaj(elephant), Nouka(boat)
or the Palki(palanquin)- we Bongs choose Kundu or Banerjee Specials to help us
criss-cross the country.
Actually you can spot them from quite
a distance and you will never be wrong in identifying them. They usually move
in groups- Pishima, Kakima, Dada, Boudi,
Jethu, Thakuma, Sonamoni, Potla, Bonti- a strange medley. Occasionally, you
come across a few honeymooners- dressed heavily in colourful silks and costume
jewellery with the man invariably carrying the young missus’ handbag- and
sometimes an all stag group consisting of office colleagues or college friends.
It is actually very easy to identify
members of my tribe. Be it in Kashmir or Mount Abu or Udhagamandalam. The men,
usually leading the group like flag bearers, will be armoured with mufflers,
monkey-caps, brilliantly coloured sweaters and jackets, which would button up
with great difficulty especially at the waist, and finally yards and yards of
grey-brown shawls. Children, walking like robots behind their fathers and
uncles, their movement restricted by the protective gear supplied by their much
concerned mothers, and covered from head to toe in such a way that, apart
from their little eyes, not much is visible. Finally, the rank and file will be
made up of lots of waddling ladies, with due respect to their generous
waistlines, their sarees and shawls fluttering gaily in the wind. The mothers
and grandmothers are usually armed with lots of ‘jholas’, water-bottles, flasks
and goodies. The current generation, though, is more smartly dressed, thanks to
the malls which have mushroomed everywhere and the television soaps, leading to
some changes in their wardrobes whereby they tend to blend more homogeneously
with the crowd. Even though salwars may have replaced the sarees, trousers the
dhotis and backpacks, the ‘jholas’, the patented monkey caps and mufflers
are still there. A closer look will help you recognize your Bong friends
unmistakably. Now, coming to the point; the mission of one and all in the group
is experimenting with gastronomic delights.
One of the most common sights,
wherever you go, is that of a Bong mother running after a cantankerous child
pleading with him to have a bite of something, the child irritably reacting
“Aar khabo na !”(Don’t want to eat any more) and the father angrily coming
out with a ‘fatwa’. This is usually followed by lots of angry outbursts,
coaxing, cajoling with finally the child putting an end to it all by
exclaiming, “Kheye kheye morbo na ki?” (Do you want me to die eating?). The
case is put to rest.
On this Kashmir trip, we came across
one such group who, having been away from home for quite some time, had almost
gone berserk and were desperately on the lookout for some Dada- Boudi’s eatery that could satisfy their dried up
palates. “They make the most
mouthwatering Aloo-posto and chochchori.” My father, who liked
experimenting, instead suggested savouring the trout curry being sold at a
nearby local joint but they were quite resolute about their mission. “No, no
too much aloo parathas with dollops of butter have worked havoc in our tummies,
so we want something light.” Poor Dad backed out, even refraining from
mentioning the ‘Gushtaba’ and ‘Rista’ , Kashmiri meat delicacies, we had tried
out the night before. So our Bong friends continued their search for the much
popular Dada-Boudi joint till they
met with success and even gave us the directions to it in our next encounter
with them. I salute their perseverance and indomitable spirit!
Perhaps, it is this spirit that takes
us across the length and breadth of the country from Kashmir to Kanykumari,
from Dwarka to Shillong. I am sure that we Bengalis constitute one of the
highest number of Indian tourists, at least, within India. Despite
‘sambhar-rasam’ not really being our cup of tea, the Bongs’ favourite tourist
destination still remains ‘South India’. Every Bong has definitely been there
once, either with family or friends or on
honeymoon. Idli-dosa-uttapam may not be our favourite cuisine and our
stomachs may even revolt against them at times, despite each one of us carrying
sufficient stock of Gelusil and Digene, but we have definitely braved the trio
just to see the Temple of Meenakshi or the Forest of Periyar.
However, this weakness has not
deterred us from moving or venturing out of our homeland or trying out and
experimenting with the cuisine of other people and other cultures. You go
visiting to any part of the country or even outside it, our Bong friend is
there eating, enjoying, berating, suggesting and experimenting with all types
of culinary delights. Everything may not suit his weak digestive system, his
cravings for his machh- bhaat may
resurface, but he will all the same venture out. In Kolkata you may even come
across a simple middle-class guy, who may not have travelled much beyond the
Puri-Digha-Darjeeling circuit, but he has in-depth knowledge of where to get
the best Chinese, Thai, Mughlai and even Malabar specialities. I guess this
love for travel and food has got something to do with our genes. Perhaps,
another Bong, Dr Siddhartha Mukherjee, may throw some light on this in his
latest book on the intimate history of genes.
Now with boundaries fading, Bong
Bravehearts are touring the world – Dubai, Bangkok, Singapore, Hongkong and
London having become favourite destinations. Though we start missing our maachh-bhaat and mangsher jhol after a week of
travel, we do not hesitate to try out all the local cuisine. However, here is a
note of caution -do not be surprised if, after trying out all the authentic
Chinese ,Thai, Italian cuisines, on returning home your Bong friend concludes
that the Chinese served in Kolkata’s Chinatown and the Thai served in the
neighbourhood restaurant are the world’s best!
As most of my readers know, most
Bengalis, have a problem with ‘b’ and ‘v’. However this, like all our other
handicaps, has never ever stopped us from venturing forth and leaving our
footprints on distant lands. This brings to mind a little anecdote. A friend’s
father, during his trip to Mumbai, joined us in trying the famed ‘Vada Pav’.
Standing at the counter and, perhaps being intimidated by the size of
the pav, or the huge potato vada inside it or the red masala being
drizzled on it, he quietly asked the vendor if instead of a ‘Bada Pau’ he could
be given a ‘Chhota Pau’!!
Though I have never been to the USA,
my friends settled there often let me have a sneak peek into their lives
through FB posts and pics. I am impressed, to say the least, that my Bong
friends out there, resplendent in their Kanjeevarams and heavy duty gold
jewellery, are celebrating all festivals from Dugga
Pujo to Saraswati Pujo , from Jamai Shashti to Poush
Parbon in true Bong style with a touch of the ‘phoren’- champagne in their
hands but eyes looking longingly at the Galda Chingris (lobsters)
staring at them and the Smoked Hilsas beckoning them from the lavish
spread on their tables. It only proves that the Bong’s gastronomic longings are
actually insatiable and unconquerable and wherever he is, his quest will
continue.
Yes, we are a fishy lot and we love
our fish (and meat, a close second) delicacies. We think, stink and dream of
fish. There may be a few odd ones but they do not count. Our neighbours may not
like the smell which emanates from our house while frying fish but we could not
care less. We become like fish out of water if we are deprived of its flavours
and tastes for too long. Let me be honest, we are not wholly partial, we love
our veggies too (like our friends in Kashmir who had become homesick for Aloo Posto and Chochchori) but up to a point. For
instance, mark the expression on your Bong colleagues who come out of a wedding
feast where only vegetarian fare has been served. They gorge themselves on all
the veggie delights but their expression betrays that somewhere, something has
gone amiss. There is in them a feeling of incompleteness. Even though they may
have taken second helpings of the ‘Malai Koftas’ or the ‘Hariyali Kebabs’, a
craving for something more is left in them. A wedding feast without fish
kabiraji , chingri malaikari and kosha mangsho is
unimaginable to a Bong no matter to what caste, creed or religion he belongs!!
For us all the three Ps- Pujo,
Parbon and Parinoy ( Durga Puja, Festivals and Weddings)- are synonymous
with good food. A visit to the Durga Pujo pandal without trying out
the luchi-aloor dum, Mughlai
parathas(our very own Bong creation), dal-puris, egg rolls, mochar chops, not to forget standing in
the queue for the Bhog (Prasad), is
unpalatable. In any puja pandal it is fun to see the mad rush to
the food counters made by devotees the moment ‘Pushpanjali’(offering of flowers to the deity) is over. As the
priest recites the mantra in Sanskrit, the hands remain folded and the eyes
closed, but the minds of the fasting Bongs start wandering to another territory
– malai chamcham or mishto doi ?
In Bong weddings, too, we do not care
too much for ceremonies and rituals. In fact, they are getting cut short by the
day with inter-caste, inter- community and inter- continental marriages rising
in number. As I understand, though, the feast is getting more and more
sumptuous and global. In fact Bong weddings are occasions when cousins and
friends enter into gluttonous competitions with each other – who can have the
most number of fish cutlets, steamed bhetkis
or rosogollas . Most
pre and post wedding debates, too, centre around one topic- food.
With malice toward none and love for
all, I hope I can safely say may our tribe increase and may we spread this love
for eating and travelling to every nook and corner of this beautiful planet.
The Side Effects of Being a Bookworm
Reading is injurious to health
I was never warned nor cautioned…in
fact I was encouraged. A new book for every birthday, train journeys, exam
results, Durga puja and at least three to four during the summer and winter
vacations. The drug was freely given and the addiction persisted and grew.
What follows here is a retrospective,
observational study about the adverse effects of the pharmacological compound
that goes by the brand name of ‘story books’ in the Indian population. The age
group included in the study ranges from 5 to 60 years and it was conducted over
a period of 20 years from 1996 to 2016. The sample size was not fixed. It was
divided into the study group that included the people commonly referred to as
‘the bookworms’ and the control group that included ‘everybody else’. The aim
of this study was to bring to light the harmful effects of reading story books
on the personality of the study group. The results and conclusions have been
summarized below as a first person account.
Bookworms are very busy during the vacation time.
We prefer to begin piling our stock
much before the vacation actually begins, that’s when the hibernation starts.
The books for the next semester can wait for the term to start but not the
story books. We prefer to stay indoors during the day and stay up late at night
to finish the chapters. It is bothersome for the other inhabitants of the house
since we will not budge to help out with any work, we are not lazy but we just
need to know what is going to happen next. We will clean our bookshelves,
arrange the books according to authors but do not expect us to clean our desks.
Bookworms care more about the paperbacks than the paper notes.
We will drag our parents to stand in
long queues, pre order the next book in series and end up buying hard bound new
books even though we know that in a month or two the same book will be available
at a much lesser price. However, we are an impatient lot, we cannot wait that
long. As I said, it is an addiction and we get a high by getting our hands on
the first set of copies.
Bookworms are unable to like English being taught in schools.
We do not like the fact that excerpts
from plays or novels are kept in syllabus. We need to know why Mark Antony
decided to address his Friends, Romans and Countrymen or whether Brutus was truly
an honourable man or not. And so we end up reading the entire play and not just
the famous speech even though we know that we will never be asked more than one
question from it. We cannot limit the number of words in a letter to 100 and in
an article to 250. We just cannot express ourselves and feel constrained and
almost claustrophobic when such limitations are put. We often resort to
unscrupulous means such as making our handwriting tiny so that the space
occupied appears to be limited even though our flow of words is not. While some
of us become rebellious against this unjust system of curbing creativity by not
writing a few answers at all, others could not care less and continue to let
the ink fill the pages and smudge the hands knowing well that they will never
finish the paper.
Bookworms can be very prejudiced.
We might not respond if you begin an
introduction with ‘Myself Chhotu, from Mumbai’.
While we can chatter nonstop about
Bathsheba and Gabriel Oak, we might just end up completely ignoring you in the
madding crowd if you say the novels you have read are Chetan Bhagat’s Revolutions. So we find it difficult to
strike a conversation or to continue one after a point with the control group. We
are a rigid lot. We prefer the feel and smell of rough yellow paper than kindle
the desire to accept and adapt to the electronic world.
Bookworms can be oblivious to the world.
You can step on our feet, push us,
squash us in the local trains of Mumbai, that’s alright; we won’t say anything
to you while we are reading. We are more interested in whether Ralph de
Bricassart reciprocates Meggie’s love or not rather than ‘Pudhil station
Andheri’.
Bookworms can be extremely irritating
movie companions.
We do not think any movie has done
justice to the books. We will exclaim aloud time and again in the theatre “that
is not what happens in the book” or “oh my God, they omitted the most important
detail, the whole plot rests on that.” And no, you cannot have an opinion about
the movie if you haven’t read the book.
Bookworms are pests when it comes to matrimony.
We can be a source of constant worry
to our parents and grandparents when it comes to finding a suitable match. An
ideal matrimony profile for us should read,
“Looking for a tall, dark and handsome
gentleman with Sherlock’s brain and Darcy’s heart, as noble as Aragorn and as
swashbuckling as Rhett Butler, with principles of Howard Roark, charm
of Jean-Benoit Aubéry and the madness of Willy Wonka, as selfless as
Sidney Carton who sticks with me through the best of times and the worst of
times and who makes me an offer with The One Ring that I cannot refuse and for
whom love means never having to say you are sorry.” Great Expectations. Period.
The perils of the world of fantasy are
many; the study has been able to elucidate only a few. The data collected till
now has shown that the benefits of reading far exceed the potential
complications and adverse effects. It is thus justified, according to the
authors, to expose the child at an early age to the drug. The research is still
continuing but the progress has slowed down as the bookworms are an endangered
species now. The world will soon be rid of them. But the question that remains
unanswered is, ‘Do we want that to happen?’
Till then…Mischief Managed!
I am sure you would have guessed by the style of writing which blog was written by whom. We hope to continue his journey at our own pace. Thanks for inspiring us to go on and on.
MSD
