Delhi 1995
There is no place like Delhi in winters. It is the time to dress, enjoy
your food and get together with your friends and family just to have good fun.
It is also the time for weddings when all the goodness of spirits comes
together. We were invited to the wedding of the daughter of our Bengali boss to
a Punjabi groom. We read the card several times and landed up five minutes
before 7pm, the time that was printed for the first of the ceremonies. We
entered the pandal and did not find
anyone inside. We must have come to the wrong place, my wife exclaimed. She
took out the big four page invitation card and read the address again and
walked up to the security fellow at the gate who confirmed that we had indeed come
to the right place but far too early….after all this was a Punjabi baaraat coming and it seemed all the
other guests knew, including the bride’s parents, and hence were in no hurry to
reach the venue. Since the place was not too far from India Gate, with a baby
in tow, we took an auto rickshaw and went over to the lawns there for a stroll.
After half an hour, we once again reached the venue and to our utter
delight we found the bride’s dad around….arrey
D, S…esho esho….Our attendance was marked. We sat down waiting for some
nice hot kebabs and snacks to be served but it was a little too early for that.
I even took a walk behind the screen to see the place where the dinner would be
laid but that space seemed bereft of any activity. They had just begun to light
the fire in the mud oven….and my heart said, tandoori kebabs will shortly
follow! We saw some other guests trickling in and D was amazed to see the women
folk who, in the middle of January, were wearing sleeveless blouses and no
winter clothing to protect while she had a pure wool cardigan and a Kashmiri
shawl wrapped around her. I made a gesture to her with my thumb pointing
towards my mouth in the most elementary code language that they must have taken
a good number of shots of alcohol before entering the marriage venue. Nothing
protects like a good spirit down your throat. I said try that and you can also
show off your sari and jewellery.
We waited patiently for the baaraat
and the kebabs to arrive but no one
other than us was in any hurry for now the bar was open and people seemed to have
just started enjoying the evening. One good thing about the bar having opened
was that some nice, hot kebabs started
circulating and I made sure anyone who passed by our seat with a tray was
stopped once, asked what he was carrying and, more often than not, a couple of
pieces were picked up and passed on to the much embarrassed wife who, after a
while, threatened to walk out if I did not stop my shameful antics. Till this
day, I have not understood why eating what you liked was seen as shameful…if I
did not eat, someone else would and I was hungry too. After the afternoon
lunch, I had not touched a morsel and the barbecue food was manna from the
heaven. Anyway, after a while, saw some of the dinner trays had a small fire
lit under them signalling that anyone in hurry could eat. This was the
opportunity we were waiting for. We walked up to our Boss and handed him an
envelope and asked him to give it to his daughter who was now busy getting married.
I told him that we had to reach home early as our little girl had school the
next morning. The gentleman man agreed and asked us to eat well before we left-
you must try out all the fish delicacies! So the plates were filled along with the
near divine jalebi with rabdi combo
which, according to me, is the best dessert on a winter night. Next we hailed
our three-wheeled chariot to go home. By now it was almost 10pm and the
temperature had dropped drastically. D covered our girl with her shawl to stop
the gust of cold air beating on her tender cheeks.
The auto fellow dropped us about five hundred metres away from our house
and we started walking. All the houses seemed shut and no one was outside….no,
not all were inside. There was one bungalow where there was a light in the portico
and, as we approached nearer, saw an old man in a checked lungi with a woollen cap, a heavy sweater, a muffler round his neck
pacing slowly up and down. It was my father who was out alone in the winter
night and he quickly opened the gate as he saw us approach.
How many times do I have to tell
you that I am not a kid anymore? Why do you have to wait for us outside? If you
do this, we will never be able to go out anywhere at night.
The old man did not argue but I knew, he would keep doing this as
always. I had seen him since childhood when he would ask me to return home
after sunset. It didn’t matter how early I left the house, even if it was before
sunrise, but I necessarily had to be back at a good time. When in my teens, I
returned home late, I always found him waiting for me outside the
house…anxiously and patiently. It never mattered whether it was the middle of a
scorching summer or ice cold winter….he would be walking up and down, never to
stop till the last of the people of the household had come into the comfort and
safety of the home.
Mumbai 2005
My flight landed at Mumbai after 11pm. It would have landed at least
thirty minutes earlier but for the congestion in the sky. I loaded my suitcase
in a kali-peeli taxi and headed home.
The only time you can have a smooth ride in Mumbai is before 7am. After that it
did not matter what the time was, mid-afternoon or mid-night, you were bound to
be caught up in traffic snarls on the dug up roads of the so called Economic
Capital of India. By the time I stepped out of the cab, it was well past
mid-night but, fortunately, I had the keys to the house and wouldn’t have to
ring the bell to wake up the people inside. I slowly turned the key and opened
the main door just enough for me to squeeze inside. It was completely dark
inside with all the lights out except for a small green night lamp which I
could faintly see illuminating my mother’s room facing the main entrance. Like
a stealthy thief I felt I had entered without anyone noticing and had started
to walk towards the master bedroom when a stuttering faint voice spoke up…
Eshey geshish Shibu…you’ve come
Shibu?
She had suffered a stroke about fifteen days ago and was not keeping
well at all. Her health was going downhill and almost every day the decline was
becoming apparent. She had to be given sedatives at night to make her go to
sleep and here she was awake when the whole world slept.
Hain Ma…yes mother. Why are you
awake so late, Ma?
I walked into her room. She tried to shift her body slightly to make
room for me to sit but wasn’t successful. I helped her a bit and sat down next
to her, holding her hand. She smiled and held my hand as tight as she could. I
patted her forehead with my other hand. We spoke a little but were together for
quite some time. I offered her some water to sip and helped her go to the
toilet. After she returned to her bed, I asked her to go off to sleep. She nodded
her head. I went to my room, changed and before hitting the bed returned to do
one last check on her. She was now sound asleep like a baby. I said a little
prayer…she had been suffering for long and may the lord heal her or relieve her
of her pain.
Mumbai 2022
It was the end of a hectic month when business pressures were at their
peak. Travelling to cities, meeting clients and brokers, going through a deluge
of mails and crunching data, reviewing the preparations and progress on a daily
basis ended that night of 31st March with the news pouring in from
all locations about businesses retained and new accounts acquired. The mood was
upbeat and after all reports of the day’s collections were done, we all went
out to celebrate at a nice place not far from the office. I had already told D
that my dinner surely would not be at home that night and that she should go
off to sleep as I would be very late in returning home.
No business celebrations are ever complete without the spirits flowing
out of the bottles and flowing into the veins of the men. This inevitably leads
to the food getting much delayed for you cannot tell these spirited men and
women that it is getting late guys….you will be mocked to the world’s end for
being a sissy. At the earliest possible opportunity, I walked up to pick up a
little food as my tummy was almost full eating the finger foods that were
getting served while I gulped a couple of fresh line sodas and virgin mojitos.
Finally, excused myself at around 1am, as if the Cinderella’s time to stay at
the ball was over, and walked out. Drove down home and at around 1.30am, slowly
unlocked the first of the two entrance doors. Before I could even put the key
into the hole, the door swung open with D standing there. I did not know
whether to get angry or not. I still asked….
Why are you awake? I had told you
that I would be late in coming home. Why don’t you ever listen to me?
I just couldn’t sleep.
I realized it was April One now…All Fool’s Day and here was a Fool Number
One waiting endlessly.
Epilogue
I wonder why in all our stories since childhood they spoke about bad and
evil creatures stepping out in the darkness of the night. These creatures would
wait to pounce upon the good men and suck up their blood. In life I have been
amazed by these night creatures instead who have stayed awake till I came back
home in the deep of night. What kept them up in the cold winter’s night when
all had shut themselves in the comfort of their homes; why do they stay up and
awake when their bodies are failing just to get a glimpse of their hale and
hearty sons walk into the house; to be waiting alone without any fuss just to
make sure I returned home in good shape having driven late in the night after a
long day ….it feels so blessed to be waited upon. I don’t
like the hanging bats but I do love these Batmen and Batwomen in flesh and
bones in my life.
SS
So true & touching.
ReplyDeleteAw! My dad was a glow in the dark dad. He would lean on the wall just outside the house(smoking was prohibited in the house) and at the weirdest of hours, you could see that beacon of the following to cut an arc. No matter what the time..9pm, 245am.. he would just say .vandutayamma(you are home little one), just turn and walk into three house without even waiting for an answer! My mom would be bidding away, sitting on the floor with a newspaper.
ReplyDeleteAfter I got married, I thought things would be different. But here they curfew was 7pm!! And my mother in law in the cane chair would sit facing the door. There are even times when she used to shuffle to the gate and if she saw you coming, she would scurry back inside and sir on that chair. Shed always say..I thought you said you would be back early? You must be tired. Konjam coffee venuma? I would tease up like anything. One reason, I changed my times at work was too get back and not keep her waiting at the doorway.
Shibu.. The creatures in the dark are the warmest beacons of our lives at the end of an exhausted day, just a sight of that worried face quickly smoothing into a grin and some mundane words muttered without white looking to see if you are irritated with their having you.. Is an awesome feel.
Right now with my father and mother in law far far away, years cloud my eyes asI read this. Thank you. They need to be remembered with just more than love. They need to be remembered with gratitude anda sense of longing!!
Nice one Sibesh.
ReplyDeleteThese 'lovable Bats' in our lives are a very Indian phenomenon! Maybe, to a certain extent, Asian. You have beautifully written how our 'loved' one's anxieties remain the same over the years! Yes, I repeat, it is something to do with our Indian emotions.
ReplyDeleteBrings back nostalgic memories. They are actually creatures of 'any time' - your return gets delayed, and they'll be out on the road, waiting for you, especially in the no-mobile era
ReplyDeleteNice one sir, I think this is very common my parents and my little one will stay awake untill i come home. Other way round this is one of my motivations to get home early.
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